If I were to ask you a gift that you would like to receive, I'll bet. Many of you would pick what I'm gonna talk to you about now. I want to talk to you about confidence, about becoming a confident person.
I find that that is just a big need in the life of many people. They just lack the confidence to do what they want to do to sometimes do what they should do, and so they come to me and they ask me, how do I become a more confident person and I would like to share with you quickly three ways That you could begin to build into your self-confidence that will allow you to go to a level that a lack of confidence will hold you back and keep you from achieving.
All Things takes Action
The first thing I would share with you is this: if you want to be a confident person, you have to take action. Confidence is a result of doing something, and so many times people cheat themselves because they lack that confidence.
So they don't do what they should do, only to leave saying - I wish I would have done that. I remember when I was in my 20s. I went to a meeting with leaders that were older than me, wiser, bigger, better faster.
I was, 27, they probably averaged 45 - 50 and I was overwhelmed by the fact that I was truly not trying to be humble. I was truly the least in the room and I could have learned so much from them.
In fact, they gave us plenty of times for us to ask questions, and I held back and I didn't ask questions, and I left that meeting and I really realized how I cheated myself, and I determined that I would never let that happen again.
Now, why Didn't I ask the question? because I lacked confidence. I thought, Well, you know it's, probably a silly question too. Then they probably answer that question a thousand times. Well, you know they look at me, Wow he doesn't, know very much, and I determined that day that, regardless of how intimidated I was going to become, I was never going to cheat myself again. That I was always going to ask the question, even though if I figured, it may be a really stupid question.
Breaking out of the Confort Zone
What was I doing with my confidence?
Take Action
I was making a determination to take action on something that I didn't feel comfortable with and trust me, I did. I never broke that promise to myself. Today I can look back at many times where I just went ahead and did it.
I didn't feel comfortable, but I went ahead and did it and each time I took action, it began to give me confidence. The second thing that I have done to build my confidence is to share with others and help them......
One of the things I found is that you began to feel better about yourself when you help other people get better, and so, therefore, there's a confidence booster in making yourself invaluable to others. Why? Because you're, always adding value to them. So I grew my confidence not only in taking actions on things that I perhaps was intimidated with but I did it anyway.
I grew my confidence by the fact that I began to meet people's needs and because I met their needs, I began to be valued and I began to have influence with those people. All of that process helped me to become a more confident person.
The third thing that I did is I spent time with confident people. There is no security like being with secure people, you know it. You know when you're with them. You know when you're, not with them. You can feel it in the room. A lot of my leadership has been based on the fact that I provide a lot of security for people they just know if they hook up with me.
Embrace Confidence in you Life
I found people that we're confident and I hung with them. I watched them. I asked them questions I learned from them, but more than anything else, I immerse myself in the environment of a confident person, because confidence is caught.
I've watched it. It happens many times a team, maybe is behind in a game and all of a sudden they get on a run and they cool start playing over their head and they begin to build momentum. They get on a roll and they start scoring points.
And you can just watch in the behavior the attitude, the actions, the facial expressions of the players that they're, just feeling better about themselves. As the game goes on, it's, contagious get around the person that's secure and you'll become more secure, get around a person that's, got confidence and you'll begin to Gain more confidence because secure confident people want you to be confident.
Final Thoughts
Also, the only people that don't want you to be confident in life are insecure people. They always want you to be off-balance, so they can have the advantage. So I want to encourage you to hang around some confident people get in that environment and immerse yourself in it add value to people and take action on things that you fear and you begin to build your confidence.
I'm glad you're with me today reading this post. Thanks once again for your valuable time, I hope I have added value to your confidence. Keep pushing forward this confidence arrives.
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